The life of anyone living through infertility.
Unless you are faced with the trauma that infertility brings, it’s not only hard to understand it from the outside, but extremely challenging to articulate from the inside.
We all react to trauma in different ways, experiencing a wide range of physical and emotional reactions. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to think, feel, or respond… so don’t judge yourself or others for their reactions.
It’s critical to understand that infertility is a trauma, often a complex one. Infertility changes how you see yourself and the world. Somehow along the way, it changes from feeling like something is happening to us, to a place of starting to believe that it is part of who we are. We start to live in a constant state of fluctuating despair and hope.
The hard part of it all is that it doesn’t turn off when you get pregnant. It doesn’t go away when you feel that first kick. I have a 6 year old son, and I still work through turning it off.
How do we cope? How do we heal? After giving yourself permission to cry and be angry, transfer that energy to help build that bridge back your loved ones. Educate your family/friends on infertility. Ask them to do some reading on it and articulate how you want to be treated. But at the end of it all, FIND YOUR TRIBE! I started this blog two weeks ago, and I can’t begin to tell you how liberating it’s been to connect with a community of those that understand nationwide. So thank you from the bottom of my heart to all those who have left messages of support, encouragement and advice, you are truly making a difference! 🤍
My Journey through Infertility 